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Coco McAtee LSCSW
Family Life Educator | Speaker | Facilitator


Telling the Truth About Bodies



July 25, 2011

The Gross-Me Outers
I ‘borrowed’ that label from one of my favorite authors, Meg Hickling R.N.  (See my top 10 resources)

She coined it to describe the kids who fall in the age range of about 3rd through 6th grade. They are often disgusted by much of the sex education explanations. I don’t buy into Freud’s label of latency age sexuality where supposedly all curiosity goes dormant until puberty sets in. Nowadays, kids are exposed so much earlier to sexually explicit material, music, movies, and magazines. You better believe they are primed for accurate information and the dispelling of myths.

Actually, let them be a bit grossed out. It may prevent the experimentation that often results from unsatisfied, normal curiosity. Admit it, most of us have some level of interest in sexual matters from youngsters to the elderly. Sexuality educators and advocates know from research that experimenting is often a reaction to a kid’s innate curiosity not being nourished. In other words, we would not squelch a child’s budding interest in insects, dinosaurs, how gravity works or why helium makes our voices rise. If a child asks questions about why my body is this way or how are twins created, answer the question, get books out or very carefully search the web!

We can make this topic approachable by normalizing it as a perfectly acceptable topic of conversation. The important social expectation is that it is a private, family conversation. Explain that many families may not be comfortable talking so openly about this. Complement one another by adding…”Aren’t you glad we can talk about this?”

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